Saturday, March 13, 2010

Why not try lesbian polygamy?

I understand that the idea of marriage is sacred. I also understand as a lesbian, the fight for our right to legally marry each other being of the same sex is an uphill battle that will take plenty of time and effort to overcome. However, I cannot shake the feeling that there is more to love than the dreaded "monogamy." As a woman I question everyday why I don't just fit into the mold of what is acceptable for relationships. I do not believe that there is just one person out there for every person, instead I believe that a compilation of different aspects of many different people make up an ideal relationship for most people. Seeing how we are in fact animals, I do not see the reasoning in limiting yourself to just one person. I see new opportunities to express ones emotions and love through a plural marriage. Although lesbian polygamy may never be legally accepted, the idea has intrigued the masses for years. So ask yourself, "Why not?" Some may say this is a perverted ploy to have ones "partner" participate in some sort of sexual fantasy, having sex with multiple partners all at once. The idea of plural marriage is not just a way to have massive orgies, but instead a way to love and communicate with each other on a deeper level while maintaining family values and beliefs together. Although some families may choose to share a bed, this is not set in stone. Most women need companionship and love at different times as well as in different ways. Having to rely solely on one partner limits a couple to only find solace in each other, many times this can be a problem especially if these two individuals do not see eye to eye. Can you imagine a relationship where problems can be talked through in a group of lovers that can understand one another, instead of only having 2 people who both believe they are right. Although jealousy may come into play, a relationship like this should be built upon love of all the women. It is a natural emotion that has to be worked through together as any other problem would be. There are many pros to this idea, so far when I look up the idea of lesbian polygamy the only con that people have come up with is jealousy. The benefits of plural marriage include more hands in a household to insure that everyone is happy, more children is also an option, the added benefits of multiple incomes allows for a big household to thrive well. Although many lesbians feel there is one possible outcome to this scenario, it doesn't hurt to give it a try. What may work for some may not always work for you. Although currently I have been with my partner for the last 2 years we have not completely threw out the idea that a plural marriage might work for us. It is definitely something to discuss thoroughly, but definitely not something to dismiss quickly without thinking about seriously first. Would you want to eat the same thing everyday for every meal for the rest of your life? I think not...